- When you're just learning this Cool Ki Trick, have your friend be gentle as he tries to pull
your thumb and forefinger apart. This will give you an opportunity to learn.
- If your thumb and forefinger were actually glued together, would you have to use any muscle
to keep someone from prying them apart? No, because the glue would do the work for you. So rely
on the "mental glue" you're applying with your mind, and not on your muscle.
- If you have a little trouble catching the feeling, try using muscle first. Put your thumb and
forefinger together and press really hard. Have someone try to pull them apart - it should be pretty easy.
Now that you know how using a lot of muscle feels, shake your hand out, and try it again using very little muscle.
- Feel almost as though you're ignoring the person who is trying to pry your fingers apart. This is part
of having a positive mind - thinking that the obstacles you must overcome are no big deal.
"So, what did I just learn?"
Relaxation works better than strength. It does on a big scale, like when you're throwing someone with Aikido. And it
does on a small scale, as with this Cool Ki Trick. And while this little trick may seem to have no more applicability
than impressing people at your office Christmas party, if you were a surgeon, you might find that it is the key to
improving how you hold and use your scalpel. It's a fascinating pursuit finding all the different areas in your life
where a relaxed approach improves your results.